Counselling BEFORE commitment/marriage, WHY…..
Pre-commitment counselling is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for commitment when moving on from dating, such as living together or getting married. Pre-commitment counselling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship — giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying relationship. This kind of counselling can also help you identify weaknesses that could become problems during relationship.
Does it help?
Pre-commitment counselling can help couples improve their relationships before moving in together or marriage. You’ll be encouraged to discuss topics related to marriage, such as:
- Beliefs and values
- Roles in marriage
- Affection and sex
- Desire to have children
- Family relationships
- Dealing with anger
- Time spent together
Pre-commitment counselling helps partners improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for living together or marriage and develop skills to deal with conflict and arguments. In addition, pre-commitment counselling can help couples establish a positive attitude about seeking help down the road.
Keep in mind that you bring your own values, opinions and history into a relationship, and they might not always match your partner’s. For example, family systems and religious beliefs vary greatly. Many couples have experienced very different upbringings with different role models for relationship and marriage. Many people go into marriage believing it will fulfill their social, financial, sexual and emotional needs — and that’s not always the case. By discussing differences and expectations before marriage, you and your partner can better understand and support each other during marriage.