5 tips to get the best out of couple counselling
5 tips to get the best out of couples counselling
Make your appointments a priority.
Consistency is key to achieving any goal you set yourself. It’s the same with couple counselling, by making your sessions a priority you are making a commitment to yourself, your emotional well-being and your relationship. Change will happen.
Be willing to take risks and try new things.
Getting a new mobile phone can feel like a huge challenge (well to me it does!), having to learn how to re-do everything can be daunting and annoying. So imagine learning how to behave in a new way, having to move out of your comfort zone and change. This can be confusing and difficult even when you want to change. As with most things trying new things takes practice until they become second nature. Instead of being fearful, show some curiosity!
Take responsibility for your emotional well-being.
If you went to the GP and they asked what was wrong and you shrugged your shoulders, you’d leave without any help. The same is true for couple counselling. Ideal clients come prepared with a list of issues they are experiencing and would like to address in the session.
Give direct and honest feedback to your.
You should never worry about hurting the feelings of your counsellor, they need to know what is working and what isn’t. The more feedback the counsellor receives the more they can tailor their approach to your needs.
Change takes time, it’s difficult even when it’s what you want and it can also be frustrating. Couples can find that their individual processes grow at a different rate to that of their partners. As with individual counselling it can feel like 2 steps forward and 1 step back. This is perfectly normal and all part of the process. The important this is that you keep taking steps towards your goal of improving your relationship.