Is crying bad for you?
Sitting here in my counselling room watching the rain trickle down the window got me thinking about my last client and one sentence in particular. “Why would I want to accept my tears when they make me feel so physically ill?”
As a counsellor I promote crying or any sort of emotion with in my counselling room. I strive to give my clients the space and freedom they need in a trusting relationship. I believe by giving ourselves permission to show our feelings helps us process, reflect and move forward to a more healthier you!
Here is 5 reasons why I believe crying is good for you.
Crying helps you let go and move forward
As humans we naturally try and protect ourselves from pain and as my client said earlier that day crying is painful. However I believe if we do not allow ourselves permission to cry how can we learn from our experiences and move forward in life.
Crying also promotes a healthier you
Researches who have studied our tears have found that emotional crying (not the lubricator tears for healthier eyes) contain higher level of stress hormones and toxins which releases stress and negative energy, making our mental well-being much healthier.
Helps process loss and grief
You should be allowed to cry and also not cry during your grief. You should never be made to feel bad about it. It your way of being and it others feel upset in your present that’s also their right. Never feel judged on your amount of tears during this difficult time as it important for you to be yourself without fear of hurting others.
They are natural
Tears are your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and frustration. Also, you can have tears of joy and happiness. When a baby cries we do not see that as an unnatural event. We soothe and nurture the child to meet their needs. As an adult we also have these needs which are completely normal.
It can make us happier
Studies suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones”. By allowing yourself to feel the pain also allows you to gain. Similar to going to the gym it may hurt in the moment but the benefits outweighed the act.
So in summary I Personally I would say that crying is a good sign. Often when you are feeling very down you made find your unable to cry. But if you feel you need to then it can allow you to release emotions and feelings that you might have been having to work hard to hold inside and it will also lower your stress levels. Furthermore, evidence has shown that crying can actually result in elevated mood. Crying is also an outward display of emotions. It will signal to others how you are feeling which might turn out to be a good way of communicating without having to put it into words.